But now there are 9.
Kay was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in early July. It came out of nowhere (as this cancer usually does). She had a back pain and went to the ER. The doctors gave her 4-6 months to live. While we all knew this was going to happen, for awhile she was her funny, matter of fact self. Kay was a "constant." What I mean by that is that she was always steady, no sharp ups and downs like some of us have. You always knew where you stood with her. We all love her so very much and we knew her life was coming to an end. But, as is often the case, one is not really "prepared" for the final exit. It is so hard to imagine our lunches, girls' vacations, weekends away without her, phone calls, etc. Born of parents who immigrated from Ireland, Kay was blessed with the values and coping mechanisms that they brought with them from the "old sod"and, of course, the amazing sense of humor.
Kay has four children, 3 daughters and 1 son. Throughout these months her children have always been present. Watching their mother die has exhausted them and taken so much from them. But they would do it again in a heartbeat if they could have her back.
Some lives are here just for a few moments or a few years…..others for longer. Kay made a difference in the world. She brought joy and laughter and wisdom to our lives. A piece of each of us went with her….and a piece of her remains with us.
We will all remember his homily…he asked each of us to take a turn to tell how we met one another. So many tears were shed and so much laughter filled the chapel. It made our bond even stronger.